Your wedding day is probably something you’ve dreamed of your entire life. It’s an incredibly special day and a huge milestone in your life. Although it is a day centered around the two of you, you know that your family and friends have also been looking forward to this day. Your parents probably envision you walking down the aisle, the first dance, and all of the fun celebrations that go along with a wedding. However, if your wedding plans only involve the two of you, it can be difficult to break this news to your friends and family. You certainly don’t want to hurt their feelings, but after all, it is your day and it should be exactly how you want it. If you and your partner are planning to elope but don’t know how to tell your family and closest friends, we’re here to give you some tips! If it’s done carefully and with the right timing, the conversation can go more smoothly than you’d think. Check out our tips below to approach the topic.
Tell Them ASAP
We know that you may be avoiding the conversation, but trust us; The earlier you do it, the better. The sooner that you tell them, the sooner they’re able to process and accept the information. If you wait too long to tell them, they may already start “planning” in their mind what they envision for your wedding day, which will lead to more disappointment when they do find out about the elopement. Even worse, if you start to tell other people about your plans to elope, the news could get back to them from someone else. Plus, the longer you wait, the more it’ll stress you out and prevent you from being excited about your special day.
Share Your Reasons Why
Although you do not need to explain your reasoning, if you’re comfortable, it can help to share some of your points to help them better understand. For example, if you’d rather elope to save money, tell your parents why! Explain that you’d rather put the money towards a down payment on a house, saving up for children, or taking a big vacation together. You might also want to elope because it’s more intimate, less stressful, or you want to get married sooner without having to wait and plan a big day. Whatever your reasoning, know that it’s valid, and your family and friends should understand and support you.
Keep Them Involved
Remember that if they are hurt or upset, it’s because they love you and want to celebrate the milestone with you! Even though you’re eloping, there are ways you can keep them involved. Invite your mom and close girlfriends to come to pick out your dress with you, even if it’s just a simple gown or cocktail dress. You’ll also want to be sure to get plenty of photos to share with them. Additionally, you may choose to have a small ceremony or dinner with them afterward. Having a separate celebration with family and friends can make it even more special for everyone!
Eloping in Boston
If you’re planning to elope in or around Boston, get in touch with Justice Lydon & Co! We provide several elopement packages to tie the knot in a location of your choosing in Quincy, Boston, and beyond. Learn more about our Sweet & Simple elopements or Best of Boston Elopements, and give us a call at (617) 472-7423 or fill out an online form to contact us today.